Janae Says...

It’s that time where I review the year, which I think we can all agree has been a shit show.  Here were my goals from 2020, which I made before knowing the extent of the diarrhea splatter that would be 2020.  Physical -Possibly run another half, if my knee, hip, and feet can take it. -Do stretch yoga 1-2x per week. I'm bad at this and know my body needs it. Mental -Read (actual text/digital text) 12 books, and listen to 2 audiobooks per month (36 total). -Keeping last year's goal to certify as a group fitness instructor, preferably Les Mills. -Do 1-2 minutes every day of breathing to relax. Emotional -Recite daily affirmations. -Do some Gottman worksheets with Matthew to strengthen our relationship. Spiritual -Try to connect daily to my Creator. -Read Jesus Calling on weekdays. Weekends are a bonus. Let’s review, shall we? Maybe we can do it without laughing.  Physical  Running another half has not been even remotely desirable to me. With the weight I have gained, running has b

I’ve had a lot of foot in mouth moments in my life. Like, a lot of them.  I’ve had times where I’ve done the wrong thing and hurt people. I have the specifics in my brain from childhood and adolescence—things I have long since apologized for but still feel bad about. Especially fresh are my offenses in adulthood; I remember forever the times people are upset with me.  In my own personal life, I put a lot of weight on people’s intentions. And I try to remind myself that people are doing the best they can (a philosophy shared by Brené Brown). Sometimes that’s really hard to remember, maybe more so with some people than others. I try to give a lot of grace up front because I know I’ve required a lot of grace from others in my life.  But in the end, whether or not your intention was to hurt someone, people’s perception is their reality. So I’ve always tried to err on the side of seeing my own mistakes and apologizing, sometimes before I even know if offense was taken. Sometimes I don’t kno

I decided to take the challenge from the Happier podcast of making a "20 for 20" list for this year. I'm SO glad I did.  I chose to make this a list of things I wanted  to do. They didn't have to be goals or work or habits or anything like that. Purely things I wanted to do.  So here are my 20, as typed in my iPhone notes: Do a paint night (done - Harry Potter!) Do three Gottman worksheets with Matthew (done - more than three!) Buy a bicycle (nope) Bake a new treat like creme brulee (done) Do an escape room (did this for my birthday!) Try a new fitness class (done) Watch a black and white film (done - My Man Godfrey) Read an intuitive eating book (done) Read a classic novel (done - Little Women) Run an accountability group (I tried; had little to no interest) Go on a ski lift (nope) Visit Antelope Island in April or May (nope) Visit the salt flats (nope) Go on a hike (done - several!) Tulip festival (nope; it was only online) Take a weekend trip (done) Learn a Christm